So you're sat at your computer again, wondering about how tired and lethargic you feel, how you eyes ache and how you can't sleep at night!
As Coaches, we try to look at a holistic approach to the client's well-being. This takes a number of different forms but can loosely be summarised as Mind, Spirit and Body.
We all know that learning doesn't end at school or university, it's an ongoing process throughout our lives even when we don't think much about it. Watching a documentary on tv that teaches you something is a good example of what I like to call "Unconscious learning" but when did you last consciously study? Was it for work? How did you study and what lessons did you learn about how you prefer to learn?
If you are going to learn, it is often worth trying to understand how you best learn. At school you probably had a teacher at the front of a class with a board they wrote on and some books to read (or maybe a laptop/pc to study at if you are under about 25). That doesn't mean that you need that format to learn now though. Many people like reading but remember far more they hear and vice versa. Have you tried an audio book or watching video clips of the subject to see if you retain more using one method than another?
Achieving spiritual happiness is often seen as the pinnacle of human life and in some theories is at the top of the tree in terms of our requirements (see our page on motivation). Spirituality does not have to mean religion (though for many it does). As a coach I prefer to think of it as finding that state within yourself where you are at peace with who and what you are. This may mean understanding the principles and motivations that drive you as well as the things that have the opposite effect. Self questioning is always a good place to start trying to understand what aspects of your life are leading you to be less effective and why! Only when you have identified some areas to work on should you think about WHAT to do to make the changes that you desire.
This is often the forgotten element and one that maybe should be the first we address since it impacts so much on your mental well-being and spiritual health.
Rather than paraphrase work that has been done by many many others into this field, here is an article that seems to us to sum up nicely along with some basic suggestions as to how to go about making physical change in your life.
As always, comments are very welcome.
How big is your briefcase (if you still have one)?
When you think of taking work home, do you just fill your bag (ipad, usb stick or whatever) with files and documents because you "need" to and then never actually do anything with them at home or get home and work like a slave for hours?
If you do either of these, try this simple technique:
Say to yourself, "How much of this work could I do if I stayed here for an extra hour with no interruptions?"
Sort that work out, put it to take home and when you get in and have de-stressed from your journey, greeted your family or whatever you need to do, take that one hour of work and do it for one hour ONLY! If it takes you longer than an hour then you either are underestimating your work or overestimating your ability - be realistic!
One hour completed is far better than none or hours and hours, leaving you with no time for "play" and leading to resentment by family friends and yourself.
Balance is key to happy work and play
Rewards and Routines
As with most things in life, you only get rewards when you put in effort. Many times I hear people complain that they aren't where they want to be in life and when I ask what they have done to get there they realise that their effort has not been sufficient!
Try to define some goals for yourself and write them down or tell someone about them as this helps us to stick to them. Then look at what you are doing or will do to achieve them. Often "routine" is something we all accept and eventually become comfortable with but "routine" rarely allows us to grow and develop. Having goals and working towards them is a routine breaker.
Wrapping yourself in a comfortable routine is like grabbing an extra five minutes in bed in the morning. It feels nice at the time but ultimately leaves you with less time to achieve what you really want.
Of course, life must be a balance though. The old saying "work hard, play hard" springs to mind and is as relevant today (maybe even more so) as ever.
I've been working in training and development for more than 30 years now including 28 coaching.